I really need to stop doing things today out of a desire to make up for my past mistakes and failures. It’s just something that I’ve come to realize today while I was taking some time to self-reflect. It has come to my realization that for the longest time, much of my actions and decisions have been driven by this desire to make up for past mistakes. But instead of making things better for myself, I only seem to be STUCK. Frankly, I couldn’t think of a more appropriate word than that. I feel like I wasn’t really progress forward much. Sure, there’s been some significant improvements if I’m being fair to myself. But in the grand scheme of things, it really isn’t very much.

I think this might be the same for many people right? I mean, you’re thinking that you have lost that time, or that opportunity and when you’re trying to make up for that lost time/opportunity, what you’re really trying to do is to “get that time back”. That is how I felt most of the time. But life doesn’t allow us to get back what we’ve lost. Whatever mistakes, failures or regrets I have today, it’s gone. It’s in the past. Nothing I say or do now will ever change that fact, and it mostly certainly won’t bring the time, or opportunity back.

The only real thing I can do now is to focus on my actions today, right here in this very moment. What I decide to focus on and do now will ultimately decide the kind of future I’m going to have. I need to stop basing my actions and decisions on my past and what I’ve lost. It’s gone. Like forever. There’s no getting it back. What I really want, and should be doing is to base my actions and decisions on the future that I want to have. “What must I do now that will get me to where I want to be?”, that’s the real question I should be asking myself.

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